So Blogger I guess you're it. Talking to your hollow emptiness, exposing my self to the whole world and no one in particular is better than not talking with anyone at all. At least I won't be putting pressure on anyone, or expecting too much from them in here.
ReplyDeletePia Mellody's books "The intimacy factor" and "Facing love addiction" might apply to what you are talking about.
What the basic ideas in the book is either you're a love addict or love avoidant if you are displaying addictive relationship behaviour:
a. love addicts received too little attention and love as a child and
b. love avoidants were given too much responsibility as a child.
The love addict attracts love avoidant personalities because it feels familiar to the lack of warmth/attention they received as a child.
Love avoidants attract love addicts as it feels familiar to be around someone needy and they put up a wall to you because they are wary of becoming engulfed like their parents did to them in childhood.
Sorry if I'm way off the mark but I hope it will help. Pia Mellody's books are interesting anyway as they outline ways of recovery and healthy relationships.
Thanks Anonymous; I'm reading 'The Intimacy factor' now.
ReplyDeleteBrilliant! I hope it gives You some insight and helps taking those steps to truly change things .
DeletePerhaps you'll be able to see your behaviours and habits in a new light.
The book helped me to look at myself and realise that I was my own worst enemy.
Cheers !