Hetero Pride

I just figured out why people think different is opposition. I think it's because they themselves are opposed to it; it makes them feel uncomfortable; they feel threatened by it so they figure that those who are different must be just as xenophobic as they are.

Most of the time I dont even think there is a thought process, just the fear response.

From my perspective as a person with multiple rejected identities I’ve learned to identify things that tell me when I'm not safe; when I see those things my self perserving fear kicks in. In most cases I am the vulnerable one, the outsider who's difference is not welcomed in a culture that wasn't created with me in mind, so I feel that my reaction Is justified; but this defense against defense is never going to work.

How do we convince the haters that difference is something not to fear without having to lie down and take their disrespect and abuse?

Now That's Messed Up!

There’s something so messed up about a society that expects kindness from everyone but pushes away those in need and treats them as if they are the ones who are toxic.

Accountability

 What if its not " You make me feel" or "You alone are responsible for what you feel, but both?

Motivation

 I don't think it's possible to get to love through disipline. 

But love can moitvate discipline big time!

Cage

I've spent so many years trying to recreate myself for the people in my life Ive forgotten what free feels like.

Belief?

Many people seem to think that if they don’t understand something  or don’t think it’s for them then that counts as a disbelief. …Heteronormative ways of being are not my thing, but that doesn’t mean I’m against them or don’t believe in them. How can you believe or not believe in a person’s identity? It just is.

Emotional regulation

 It would be a heck of a lot easier to control my reactivity if people didn’t keep telling me that what I was feeling was wrong or too much. 

Survival Mode

She said:

I've been living 

in survival mode

most of my life;

I'm fine.

The Shame of Difference

If I wasn't so different people would like me; 

if I wasn't queer

if I wasn't non-binary

if I didn't see the world differently

If I hadn't developed my own sense of right and wrong

If I didn't have opinions that I think should be given equal crediance

If I didn't complain about inequities and injustice

If I didn't believe in my own intelligence or trust my own instincts

If I didn't struggle with depression and loneliness

If I wasn't emotionally sensitive and highly reactive to my environment 

If I just didn’t feel everything so deeply  

If I could only control my anger

If I didn't believe that all people deserve care 

If I could just do better without needing others

then people would like me more

and I wouldn't be alone. 

Entitlement

All people are entitled. The notion that the world doesn't owe us anything cannot coexist with the idea that we are interconnected and interdependent. How easy it then becomes for any of us to walk past someone who is struggling, feeling sorry for them, but judging it as something we have no responsibility toward, while at the same time still expecting them to care for our needs and not make us feel badly for rushing past.