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Wednesday, March 19, 2025

The Shame of Difference

If I wasn't so different people would like me; 

if I wasn't queer

if I wasn't non-binary

if I didn't see the world differently

If I hadn't developed my own sense of right and wrong

If I didn't have opinions that I think should be given equal crediance

If I didn't complain about inequities and injustice

If I didn't believe in my own intelligence or trust my own instincts

If I didn't struggle with depression and loneliness

If I wasn't emotionally sensitive and highly reactive to my environment 

If I just didn’t feel everything so deeply  

If I could only control my anger

If I didn't believe that all people deserve care 

If I could just do better without needing others

then people would like me more

and I wouldn't be alone. 





2 comments:

  1. This makes me wonder, if my one special someone hadn't accepted all of those things that are different about me, could I manage. Would self-love, accepting that I am who I am - so different from others, be enough?
    Those are all important questions.

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    1. Thank you for commenting Halle. Im very glad you have a one special someone. ❤️ I think it's much more difficult to love yourself when you dont have anyone but yourself loving you. With so much rejection in my life, loving myself often becomes an act of defiance where I'm continually having to rebuild my trust in who I am. This piece is about that having to rebuild, from that place where self doubt and self love collide.

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