Motivation

 I don't think it's possible to get to love through disipline. 

But love can moitvate discipline big time!

Cage

I've spent so many years trying to recreate myself for the people in my life Ive forgotten what free feels like.

Belief?

Many people seem to think that if they don’t understand something  or don’t think it’s for them then that counts as a disbelief. …Heteronormative ways of being are not my thing, but that doesn’t mean I’m against them or don’t believe in them. How can you believe or not believe in a person’s identity? It just is.

Emotional regulation

 It would be a heck of a lot easier to control my reactivity if people didn’t keep telling me that what I was feeling was wrong or too much. 

Survival Mode

She said:

I've been living 

in survival mode

most of my life;

I'm fine.

The Shame of Difference

If I wasn't so different people would like me; 

if I wasn't queer

if I wasn't non-binary

if I didn't see the world differently

If I hadn't developed my own sense of right and wrong

If I didn't have opinions that I think should be given equal crediance

If I didn't complain about inequities and injustice

If I didn't believe in my own intelligence or trust my own instincts

If I didn't struggle with depression and loneliness

If I wasn't emotionally sensitive and highly reactive to my environment 

If I just didn’t feel everything so deeply  

If I could only control my anger

If I didn't believe that all people deserve care 

If I could just do better without needing others

then people would like me more

and I wouldn't be alone. 

Entitlement

All people are entitled. The notion that the world doesn't owe us anything cannot coexist with the idea that we are interconnected and interdependent. How easy it then becomes for any of us to walk past someone who is struggling, feeling sorry for them, but judging it as something we have no responsibility toward, while at the same time still expecting them to care for our needs and not make us feel badly for rushing past.

Special Treatment?

 

Caring for another's pain is not "special treatment". 

It's respect, and it's something every single person deserves. 

In Honour of The Indombitable Spirit

But they can treat you like you are inferior, and what we now know about human beings is that no one does well, let alone thrives when they are repeatedly told they are worth less.

In honour of all those who's spirits survive, despite what they've been told.

Black Sheep Deserve Respect Too!

Truth be told, I like most people and consider all people my people, until they don't consider my needs as being worthy of their consideration, but still expect me to consider theirs as just as important as they do, or even more important. It is  then difficult to not think that they somehow think they are more deserving than I.

My modus operandi has always been that to be in good relationship with one another, both parties needs should be respected.  I understand this to be the definition of respect. Human being to human being, for we are all human beings first before we are anything else.